My husband and I had two daughters before our son was born. Nothing in her childhood was a clear indicator that she was just born in the wrong body. At the age of 16, miserable and having had 18 months of poor attendance at her all-boys school, she finally told us what was going on in a note left for us to find. At first we were devastated, and mixed messages were being given and received. My husband struggled to be in the same room with her as he felt he would cry, so would often leave the room. My daughter thought he was rejecting her and got really upset. Nothing in our lives had prepared us for the shockwave that reverberated around our home those first few days.